We share some music genres and a couple dishes with the northern ME, and that’s it. And no, we don’t even learn Middle Eastern civilization, culture, literature, history, anything from MENA in school. Maybe a little bit on pre-Islamic Egypt. Our history & literature education is 89% Greek literature and civilization (all 4000 years of it), 10% European Enlightenment, and 1% world history.
No, we don’t “feel” closer to the ME. Not by a long shot. Except some spoiled woke 19-year-old college girl who wears halter tops and dates a different guy every month, and votes communist because she feels a connection with “our fellow oppressed peoples of the East”, while she’s never actually stepped foot in the ME, and hops on Ryanair flights to Prague, London, Barcelona, and Amsterdam every other weekend. But she’s knows a Westernized half-Iranian girl in Athens, and do you know my Iranian friend parties and drinks alcohol? They’re like, so much like us, except they wear like hijabs instead of a crucufix! -Those are the only people that feel closer to the ME. Delusional college-age communists.
We’re not Middle Eastern. I don’t need to explain this. Adopting baklava from the ME doesn’t mean we marry our cousins and women always have to be chaperoned; it just means we like some of their foods. It’s Europe. It’s historically Christian. We wear bikinis and speedos to the beach; not burkinis. We take school trips to see naked sculptures in museums. We date. We celebrate Christmas, Easter, Assumption, and Carnival. Not Eid Al Fitr and Eid al Adha. We have churchbells…everywhere. Not muezzin. We don’t wear long Middle Eastern garments; we wear pants. We’re nationalist (a European trait), not religionist and tribalist (ME trait). This is the birthplace of Western civilization, in case you haven’t heard. Yes, we continued Roman law and learning the Classics throughout the Middle Ages, and yes, in Ottoman times too (the Ottomans taxed us jizya, which kept us poor, but they allowed us to continue Justinian’s code/Roman law for our own affairs). Venetian Greece had the Renaissance. 18th century Greeks had the Modern Greek Enlightenment. We’ve had more cumulative years of democracy since 1800 (starting with the Septensular Republic) than the Germans. We drink beer. We drink wine...in church. And no, alcohol is not a vice; we grow up with wine at the dinner table. We associate wine with family; not as some forbidden fruit. We don’t consider dancing haram. We don’t jail gays. We don’t consider atheists as “traitors” who have offended the collective. We don’t riot if someone draws a caricature of Christ or Mary, or puts a crucifix in urine. If we’re poor, we don’t sell the house to pay for a lavish wedding to show off. I don’t control my sister. Our women are not told to be quiet. We don’t consider women whores for wearing a tank top on a hot day. We don’t do FGM, virginity tests, or honor killings. I don’t disrespect my mother (she would beat the shit out of me if I ever treated her the way I’ve seen Egyptian men treat their mothers). I don’t feel more at home in Cairo than Naples, Barcelona, or even Dusseldorf. I’ve had far far far far far far far far more culture shock with Egyptians than French, Spaniards, or Americans. We completely assimilate in the rest of Europe or the Americas; and other Europeans completely assimilate in Greece. We have major issues with Iraqi Kurdish immigrants; we never have issues with Germans, French, Dutch, or Italians that live here. Do I need to go on? Do I really need to explain this? Or are you trolling us?
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
